πŸ’Œ How to Write a Card for Someone Facing Cancer



Thank you for being part of this circle of kindness. Writing a card to someone going through cancer can feel tender—and it’s okay if you’re not sure what to say. The most important thing is that your words come from the heart.

Here are a few gentle tips to guide you:

Keep it encouraging.
You don’t need the perfect words—just warm ones. Phrases like:

  • "Thinking of you and sending strength."

  • "You are not alone in this."

  • "Holding you in my heart today."

Avoid advice or assumptions.
Every journey is unique. Instead of saying things like "Stay positive", focus on love and presence:

  • "Wishing you moments of peace and comfort today."

Be yourself.
Simple, sincere messages are often the most powerful. A kind note, a short poem, or even a doodle can brighten someone’s day.

If you’re creating a handmade card:
Colors, stickers, and soft touches go a long way. It doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be you.

Optional closing ideas:

  • "With gentle thoughts,"

  • "Sending light and love,"

  • "From my heart to yours,"

✨ If you wanna add something special to the envelope, check ou this post here, about flat items you can slip into it.

❌ What Not to Write:

1. "Everything happens for a reason."
This can feel dismissive of their pain or suggest their suffering is somehow meant to be.

2. "Stay positive!" or "Keep fighting!"
Though encouraging in spirit, these phrases can add pressure. It’s okay if they feel scared, tired, or not optimistic.

3. "I know how you feel."
Even if you’ve had a similar experience, everyone’s journey is different. Instead, offer empathy without assuming.

4. "You’ll beat this!" or "You’ve got this!"
We can’t predict outcomes, and overly confident messages can feel out of touch if the person is struggling or fearful.

5. "At least..." (e.g., "At least it was caught early.")
Trying to put a positive spin on something painful can feel invalidating, even if well-intentioned.

6. Religious messages (unless you’re certain they’d welcome it).
Avoid phrases like "God has a plan" unless you know their beliefs and that it would bring comfort.

7. Unsolicited advice or treatment suggestions.
Unless they’ve asked, steer clear of sharing alternative remedies or stories of others' treatments.

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Your words can become a lifeline of comfort for someone in pain. Thank you for showing up with so much heart.

With gratitude,
Love It Forward List πŸ’›

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Let’s keep making the world a little softer, one card at a time. πŸ’Œ✨

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Comments

EC said…
This is so helpful! I always hesitate to send a card to someone facing something so trying - I don't want to say the wrong thing! Thanks so much for the suggestions :)
Carol ArΓͺas said…
I'm so glad it was helpful! πŸ’› It means so much that you want to show up with kindness, even when it feels hard to find the right words. Just your intention to care speaks volumes — and trust me, your card will be a gift in itself. Thank you for being part of this! πŸ’Œ✨